Sixty-seven percent of couples who have just had a child experience a sudden drop in marital satisfaction by the time the baby is 3 years old.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n <\/p>\n
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Five Things to Focus on if You Value Your Marriage<\/strong><\/p>\nWhat you focus on grows and develops. So, if you want to take good care of your marriage, you have to let go of your automatic habits and reactions and choose with your conscious mind what to focus on.<\/p>\n
Let's turn these findings into actionable actions and attitudes:<\/p>\n
\n- It seems that what you do during a disagreement is of great importance to the survival of your marriage. Since we know that some disagreements are impossible to resolve, we can rule out this possibility from the beginning.\u00a0<\/span>Acceptance<\/strong>\u00a0<\/span>the best. You and your partner don't always have to think and behave in the same way. Doesn't even the idea give you comfort?<\/li>\n
- Notice whether what you say and how you react falls into the positive category or the negative category.<\/li>\n
- Your ratio of positive to negative statements and behaviors should be 5 to 1. In other words, if we simplify it, your positive words and behaviors should be 5 times more than the negative ones.<\/li>\n
- Emotional shutting down, belittling, criticizing and becoming defensive are behaviors that couples who are likely to divorce exhibit during conflict, and all four of these behaviors are automatic responses of our limbic system. The limbic system is an internal alarm system that has protected the human species for thousands of years. When this system is activated, our heart starts beating faster, our thinking capacity decreases as our body pumps blood to our limbs in preparation for flight or collision. Recognize the signs of this state of arousal and\u00a0<\/span>to calm yourself and each other<\/strong>\u00a0<\/span>you need to learn.\u00a0<\/span>Empathy and humor<\/strong>\u00a0<\/span>can quickly return arousal to normal?<\/li>\n
- When you have a new baby\u00a0<\/span>baby-free time you can spend as a couple<\/strong>\u00a0<\/span>is very important. If both parents are happy with themselves and each other, your baby will be happy too. If you don't take good care of your marriage, your marital satisfaction decreases and the risk of marital discord, depression and divorce increases. As a result, it will be harder to take good care of your baby.<\/li>\n
- Since divorces occur in the first 7 years, use your head,\u00a0<\/span>expert assistance<\/strong>\u00a0<\/span>Don't wait 6 years for your marriage to wear out.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
We know that marital satisfaction is one of the most important indicators of mental and physical health. It is worth the effort to take good care of your marriage.\u00a0<\/p>\n
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